How many times have you sat in a doctor’s, counselors, or therapist office, nodding your head politely because you didn’t understand what they said? Or maybe, it was because you knew exactly what they said, and what they really meant? “Helping language” for people with Special Needs is designed to convey different meanings. These meanings are used to limit our choices. The word ”realistic” sometimes is a code for settling for what is most convenient. The word “modification” doesn’t always mean getting the adjustments or adaptations you truly need, but rather being encouraged to try a fad of the moment. We all must try to recapture the words “real” meaning. What does it “really” mean to me? What do these words truly mean to get the assistance we need to make the most of our lives, and talents, and to thrive and flourish?